Women's Health

Picking Up At Bars, Clubs + Parties

Picking Up

Picking up at venues or parties can be a fun and exhilarating experience for lesbians and same-sex attracted women. However, it's important to remember to consider your own boundaries and safety before and during any sexual experiences with strangers.

Stay safe

Remember to let your friends know where you're going before you leave with anyone
Apply your common sense and the basic rules of personal safety. Maintain a healthy degree of suspicion - if anything seems odd, be careful. Trust your instincts and if you feel unsure about a situation, excuse yourself and leave immediately
If you plan for sex, be safe and take gloves, condoms for sex toys, dams and water-based lubricant with you in case you need them
Don’t feel compelled or pressured to do anything you don’t want to. Should things get out of hand don’t hesitate to report it to the police or to gay and lesbian legal organisations - they’ll be more understanding than you think. If you're not confident doing that seek advice from ACON.